Don't dim your light out of consideration for those who have chosen not to shine. Why do we do this? It's so strange, but I have seen this pattern in my own life. "Wouldn't it be obnoxious if I did well financially / improved my health and fitness / enjoyed loving relationships / achieved my … Continue reading Compassionate Settling?
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Learning to be selfish
[Warning: Deep reflections ahead] Taking care of others can be a beautiful thing. But taking care of others at the expense of ourselves is damaging in more than obvious ways. This has come up as a huge theme for me in the last couple weeks. People who grow up in abusive and angry homes learn … Continue reading Learning to be selfish
Only Responsible for Me
Growing up I felt completely responsible for how my dad felt and behaved. We walked around on eggshells, trying to modify our behavior so that he wouldn't get angry or we wouldn't be in trouble. I developed a false belief that it was up to me to make other people happy, so that I could … Continue reading Only Responsible for Me
Just Live Your Story
Life is such an interesting thing, where each of us are the main character in our own story, but where our lives overlap so much with each other, it's easy to forget who's in charge of our direction and purpose. It's encouraging and helpful to have people understand where we are coming from, the story … Continue reading Just Live Your Story
I Am Enough
I have been reflecting recently on how much my internal world has changed since a year ago. Before that, I was stuck in patterns of self-doubt and unworthiness. I had believed the childhood lies that I was lazy and afraid of work, and was in a chronic habit of over-committing myself in the hopes of … Continue reading I Am Enough
The Surprising Blessing of Working Security
In the early hours of my birthday, I am wrapping up the last graveyard shift in a job providing security at the local hospital. I originally took the position as it would allow me to continue working on my books, but it had some other blessings in store for me. Even though security is quite … Continue reading The Surprising Blessing of Working Security
Girl…
Girl, I hope you begin to comprehend your value. That no matter how you've been treated that you remember that you were created to only be cherished and delighted in. I hope that you understand that any poor treatment doesn't reflect on you, but on them, and it doesn't make you less precious. Be kind … Continue reading Girl…
Ease into Your Resolutions
It seems like there is so much subtle pressure around New Year's resolutions. Most have spent the previous 3 months, aka, "the holidays," dismissing the guilt they pretend not to have for excessively partaking in seasonal treats, comforting themselves with the thought that they will turn things around in January. But by January, habits of … Continue reading Ease into Your Resolutions
Show Up and Own It
Ever wonder if someone else could be you or do what you do better than you? Part of the human vulnerability is that each of us can only be ourselves. There are innumerable personal gifts, traits, and abilities that each of us posses and none of us can be all of what anyone or everyone … Continue reading Show Up and Own It
What 2017 Taught Me
- I am resilient and powerful. - Hundreds of people in Michigan have my heart. - I can listen to my needs and say no to toxic situations. - Staying in unhealthy situations because it makes sense to others is a terrible reason to not change. - I am courageous and willing to take huge … Continue reading What 2017 Taught Me
